How To Establish Rapport: Conversation Hypnosis

Conversational hypnosis is the ability to hypnotize a person by means of conversation. However in conversational hypnosis does not actually put a person into hypnotism, most of people when they hear hypnosis they think of something that is mesmerizing, something that will put them into trance this is not that kind of hypnosis, and it doesn't involve persuasion not even the power of suggestion.The techniques will allow you to get someone's attention without much effort.

Conversational hypnosis gives the ability to develop rapport with another person so that you can easily convey your ideas clearly to another person.


Rapport

This type of hypnosis involves Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). One aspect of NLP and conversational hypnosis are three major representational systems; visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.

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Covert Hypnosis--Make Sure You're Using The Proper Hypnosis Techniques

By Dr. Anthony Taylor


The art of covert hypnosis is often misrepresented. The reason why so many covert hypnosis programs misrepresent hypnosis techniques is because the persuasion strategies portrayed are taken from therapy. This means many covert hypnosis students were taught that Ericksonian Hypnosis can be taken outside of a therapeutic environment and applied towards power persuasion.

This is entirely untrue. You cannot use hypnosis techniques that were intended for one purpose and apply them to an entirely separate purpose. It is true that this is subject to debate, but what is even more true is that you can clearly confirm this for yourself by simply trying to use therapeutic hypnosis tactics to influence people outside of clinical settings. You will soon notice that you simply do not get any outcome.

But a lot of people, in spite of the lack of results they get trying to use Ericksonian hypnosis out of of clinical settings, still try to use hypnosis techniques that were originally invented for therapy. The reason people keep trying to use conversational hypnosis is because they believe the reason why they are failing to get any results is due to a lack of mastery of the hypnosis techniques on their part. True, it does take a very long time to perfect Ericksonian hypnosis techniques, but no matter how much time and energy you spend sharpening Ericksonian hypnosis techniques, you will never be able to use this kind of hypnosis for anything that it was not originally created for.

Conversational hypnosis was created for the purposes of therapy. Milton Erickson cured people of chronic pain and helped people with headaches. There is not anything improper with using hypnosis techniques for therapeutic purposes, as it helps people live better and more enjoyable lives. Yet, as far as real covert hypnosis goes, you must see to it that you learn the hypnosis techniques that were created for mind control and influence in order to master the art of persuasion.

So many people have spent gobs of money and endless hours on learning conversational hypnosis for all the wrong reasons. This is why over the last decade, many covert hypnosis experts have forsaken conversational hypnosis and have begun to learn the disguised forms of hypnosis, as it is always the invisible styles of hypnosis that are most suitable for the power of persuasion.

If you take a shark out of the ocean, the shark will die because it has been taken from its environment. This same principle applies to Ericksonian hypnosis because out of a clinical setting, Ericksonian hypnosis will die and will not yield any results within the realm of covert hypnosis because it is a form of hypnosis taken outside of its environment. This means that if you want your hypnosis techniques to work, you need to first fully consider if the style of hypnosis you are using was originally created for what you are trying to accomplish.




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Covert Hypnosis--Hypnosis Techniques That Use Color Schemes

By David Drake


Several people are unaware of the power that is in colors. Color psychology is the art of persuading other people through the use of color. The concept of color psychology is not based on hypothesis, it is based on scientific evidence.

There is a reason why girls dye their hair a particular color, there is a reason why women paint their nails a particular color, and there is a reason why females wear red lipstick. Another feature of color psychology that is persuasive is the color of clothes people wear. For example, the color red is very attention grabbing, and the color black signifies power and authority. By using the right colors in social environments, what you are doing is using non verbal suggestions of covert hypnosis to influence and persuade people.

You can also combine colors into a non verbal message that is far more powerful than words alone. For example, you can wear black clothing to signify power, and a red tie to catch people's attention. Or, you could wear a white outfit to signify purity and honesty in order to get people to instantaneously trust you.

Prison officials have decreased violence by painting the walls of inmates cells pink, because the color pink has been scientifically validated to create a relaxed state of mind when people see it. For this reason prisons and jails have also been issuing pink underwear to inmates. For the most part people thought this was done by the prison officials to disgrace the inmates, but humiliation had nothing to do with it. Rather, prison officials had learned from the scientific studies that validated the power of color psychology.

The reason why color psychology is part of covert hypnosis is because by using color psychology effectively, you can change a person's state of mind and change their behavior. Everyone has heard of a lady in red walking into a room and changing the state of mind and behavior of the men who see her. You must realize that the colors marketing firms use, the colors of women's make up, and the colors of fashion are used for specific reasons. Colors are not used by accident.

Even legal tablets have yellow paper for a purpose. The yellow paper of legal pads has been shown to inspire ideas in people. The billboards you see, the packages of the products you buy, and the colors you see used in infomercials are all there for a reason. This means that color psychology can be used by any covert hypnosis trainer to plant non verbal suggestions in a person's mind.

You should also show people things that have particular colors to change their emotional state. Think of a woman looking at a red rose a man has given her, as soon as she sees the color red, this will shift her emotional state of mind. The mind needs to process everything it sees just as it needs to process everything it hears. Covert hypnosis is not just an auditory style of communication, but it is also a form of visual communication.




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How To Spot Brilliant Motivational Speakers

By Bert Sparks


Motivational speakers or inspirational speakers are professionals who specialise in making speeches that intend to engage, lift up and motivate the audience. A keynote speaker uses speech to communicate a new strategy from a new angle to give clarity to employees and see a positive light and to pull the work force together.

Resemblance

Some similarities can be made about inspirational and motivational speakers. There are differences but certain people can be both at the same time. A warm and encouraging message based on a story of overcoming an obstacle is normally delivered by an inspirational speaker. Motivational speakers deliver an energetic presentation in nature and encourage the people attending to go and perform an action.

Great motivational speakers

We have seen many excellent speakers in the last few decades and some that were great but cut their careers short by some of the things they have mentioned within their speeches. Great notable speakers include Jack Canfield who is the co-creator to Chicken Soup for the Soul books, which has close to 200 titles in and is filled with essays and motivational stories. He specialises in the USA with self-esteem seminars and has written several books on the subject, also the founder of the Self Esteem Seminars within Santa Barbara and Culver City, California. Deepak Chopra is an American physician born in India and is an author and lecturer on Ayurveda spirituality and mind-body medicine. During the late 1980's he started to publish some self help books on alternative medicines and new age spirituality. Chris Gardner is a self made millionaire and entrepreneur, philanthropist as well as motivational speaker. In the early 1980's he was homeless and struggling raising his toddler son. During 2006 Chris released his memories in a book titled "The Pursuit of Happiness" that was released as a movie later in the year. Tony Robins also an American self help author as well as motivational speaker has written some excellent books as well. Unlimited Power published in 1987 discussed topics about health and energy as well as persuasive communication and overcoming fears, and on enhancing relationships. These people have been made so successful is what they talk about have written. They have gone through themselves or know people that have and researched and written papers on this. This gives them great energy to pass onto you and make your spine tingle.

Modern motivational speakers

A motivational speaker are quite often hired by company's to increase profits as a motived employee is normally focused and on task more and so work harder. Whereas those who have lost their motivation and so do the minimum to get the job done which creates a drain on other people and so lowers any profit. For this type of speech a speaker will come prepared with things such as humour containing a message to help motivate the employees. A speaker knows that so many people today lack self confidence and so in some roles this can make there job harder especially in sales roles and so when given a new self-confidence they excell. This will give new energy and positive thoughts and renew the commitment to their job.




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Overcoming Depression Can Involve Simple Steps

By Sandy Rutherforde


Many people in the world are afflicted by depression. It could be dangerous if proper treatments aren't administered on time. There are many causes for this particular issue. It is a condition where a person can feel extremely sad, have a cynical perspective, suffer a loss of hope and truly feel down all the time. It's a widespread situation simply because every person does not have the ability to rise above sorrow and loss. Men and women who have a history of depression inside the family are far more likely to suffer from this incapacitating problem.

Several other symptoms which usually go with this issue can include reduced concentration, anxiety, detrimental thoughts, feelings of worthlessness, loss of appetite and becoming significantly less productive. Overcoming depression is often a difficult process. Nevertheless, it is usually extremely useful to reduce the severity of the symptoms. There are various levels of depression that result in varied kinds of symptoms also. For alleviating the problem you must first recognize that it is possible to prevail over the condition simply by taking some essential steps.

Always think positively and look at the good side of things. Consider the great things in life which can happen to you in the future and always keep your mind filled with these kinds of thoughts. This tends to help you to defend against the undesirable feelings and thoughts. In addition don't forget that you are not alone. There are actually numerous people across the world suffering from this problem. If needed it is possible to seek medical assistance.

Nevertheless, there are some who feel that utilizing medical help is not very beneficial. They are trying to find a lot more effective ways of overcoming depression. An additional method that can be extremely effective is talk therapy. Talk to men and women you already know, especially your friends and family, who are prepared to listen to you discuss your difficulties. Sharing your problems with someone you know is a great way of providing relief to you.

Frequently, depression is the result of moderate difficulties which can be easily sorted out by talking. Perhaps your good friend could propose a straightforward remedy which you hadn't considered. A basic strategy to deal with depression will be to discover the reason and the answer to your issues by considering it very carefully. Lots of times, you'll have the ability to discover alternatives to your problems if you continue to keep considering them. And that means you can work out something mentally and find a healthy solution to relieve the symptoms.

At the same time, alter your food habits and try to consume a nutritious and balanced diet. Drink a lot of water and do workout routines regularly. Whenever your mind is filled with these thoughts you won't have time to think of your problems. This can be a very powerful method for overcoming depression. Engage yourself in some kind of important activity, keep your thoughts completely occupied and shun detrimental thoughts.




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Depression Help - Simple Ways Of Dealing With The Condition

By Sandy Rutherforde


Depression is one of the most frequent emotional problems that individuals are affected by. You need to identify the problem and take the right steps to address the problem. There are various levels of depression that bring about distinct kinds of symptoms in men and women affected by this particular issue. Nonetheless, there are numerous typical symptoms such as sadness, lack of hope, pessimistic attitude, loss of appetite, stress and anxiety, feeling worthless and reduction in productivity in all of these people.

Depression help can be provided in lots of ways. Even so, the very first step must be taken by the particular person suffering from the disease in order to get beneficial results. The particular man or woman needs to first have the ability to recognize and concur that he is experiencing such a problem. Once that is possible all other methods and methods for eliminating the symptoms will likely be more successful. There are actually different means of reducing the symptoms of depression.

The most effective way to manage the issue is to realize that there are actually a number of other people also affected by the very same situation and you will not be alone. However it is possible to alter your situation by having a optimistic attitude and taking everything positively. This means you will never have the chance to feel depressed at all. Attempt to think about all of the great things in your life that you have. Quit being concerned about what you don't have. This alone offers you a lot more happiness.

Some people who need depression help are people who are lonely. These kinds of individuals do not have the chance to mingle with many other men and women and enjoy their relationships. So they really need to attempt to be in the company of supportive people. They could additionally attempt to talk with them about their issues. From time to time, you'll be able to discover a straightforward solution by talking with your good friends and relatives. You'll also feel relaxed after sharing your difficulties with others.

Many people can additionally find assistance by talking to a health care expert. You might have to consider certain drugs when your problem is serious. If not, the doctor will counsel you on various additional methods that could help you to overcome your situation. Many people still feel that using the medications aren't really helpful. Such people seek out various other methods which may help them.

A very simple depression help method is to continue to keep your mind occupied with positive thoughts. If you're a skilled individual, you can enjoy that particular activity and invest your time usefully. This will help you to reduce detrimental and unnecessary thoughts from sabotaging you. Also, try to eat a nutritious meal and change poor food habits. All of these suggestions will help you to lessen the symptoms and steadily alleviate the condition.




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The Fantastic Power Of Goal Setting

By Hanne Klein


It can be quite easy for some people to set goals for themselves. They are enthused with ambitions and motivation and have enough self-discipline to stay focused on the goal until they have achieved the desired outcome. On the contrary there are those who would like to achieve something but have not got the aspiration or there is not a strong enough reason for them to go for what they want.

When you decide on the goal you want to reach then it can be a huge help if you follow a step by step method. Using this technique is similar to planning your future and is more or less a guaranty that you will reach your desired goal that if you are prepared to work hard for it and do what it takes to get there.

Follow a step by step goal setting plan

Some of you may have a particular lifetime goal you want to reach while others are happy to just take one year at the time. But what ever your ambitions are the way to get started is to first write down your long time goals. Then decide how long it is going to take you to get there and then cut the time into a smaller step by step plan.

Now that you have got an over all perspective of your long time goal it will not seem so difficult to reach when you break it down. For example what you would like to have achieved in 5 years from now. Then you can cut that down to a 1 year goal and write down as much information as possible about what you will need to accomplish to get a step closer to your goal.

After taken these first steps you can cut your goals into even smaller and easily achievable goals. Divide the year into 6 or 12 parts and write down what you want to do each month so you can complete your one year goal.

Writing your goals down is a very powerful process that will give it more strength. When you place your written goals in a spot where you can view them often you will be able to keep a check on how far you have come and what you have achieved so far.

What are the benefits for goal setting?

When you see and feel the benefit of goal setting and how beneficial it is to your self-esteem to see what you have achieved it will encourage you to keep moving towards your goal. Reading about your goal setting and making your own plans will inspire you to move forward.

When you experience the wonderful feeling that come with achieving something you will get a whole new respect for yourself and the people close to you will also start to respect you more. The fact that you are sticking to what you have set out to do will add to your self-confidence and motivate you to follow your dreams.

By sticking to your goal setting plan and having reached your first goal you will know that all you have to do to achieve your goal is to follow your plan and review it every day to get motivated and inspired to keep going.




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An Honest Look At Conversational Hypnosis

By Nancy Grantham


Good communication is probably the cornerstone of every kind of human relationship and it can be a very powerful tool sometimes. A great example for this is with conversational hypnosis. Conversational hypnosis is basically the alteration of one's initial perception in order to lead to the solution of an outstanding problem like a fear.

This will have to be done through the interaction of the hypnotist and the patient.

Conversational hypnosis starts with the stage called affinity. Before attempting to suggest a solution, the hypnotist has to first establish some kind of rapport with the patient.

This can happen if the hypnotist makes the patient understand that he understands his situation completely.

Take for example we have a case of an agoraphobic person. This person has an inexplicable fear of crowds and the hypnotist is trying to coax him out of that situation. When the patient tells the hypnotist that "it is hard", the hypnotist should reply with something along the lines of "I know it is hard".

The next step in conversational hypnosis is the distraction. After the hypnotist gets the trust of the patient, the hypnotist now goes on to distract the patient by directing the patient's mind to a different thoughts other than the problem.

During this stage, the hypnotist will attempt to sway the patient's thinking into something which does not involve the problem. The hypnotist usually asks several questions to successfully allow the patient to think of something else.

Still using the same kind of scenario that I mentioned earlier, the hypnotist can try to make the patient think of something else other than his fear of people by asking "what it would feel like if he was to live all alone in the entire earth?".

Although the question may not be logical but it is effective in distracting the patient.

The final step is the proposition. Once the hypnotist successfully leads the patient to think of something else, then the hypnotist can introduce different suggestions to finally solve the problem.

Like the hypnotist can start telling the patient what life would be like if he started getting comfortable with people.




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Free Marriage Counseling Is Available

By Areelitaha Joahlanski


Marriage counseling can quickly become an expensive proposition. And when one member of a marriage is seriously considering ending the union, it can be difficult for them to envisage spending $100 or more an hour on something they believe they want out of. That's one side of the coin. The other side is the couple that desperately wants help solving problems that they can't deal with, but can't afford the high cost of therapy. This article is a look at where one might be able to obtain free marriage counseling.

Religious organizations are the most frequently utilized source for free marriage counseling. Every year these groups deliver literally tens of thousands of hours of generally high quality marriage counseling, most of it on a pay what you can basis.

In 2008 Catholic Family Service delivered almost 25,000 hours of marriage counseling in North America alone. The organization has set up hundreds of local websites, so to find information on what is available to you in your area, simply go to any search engine and enter "Catholic Family Services" and the name of your city. The marriage counseling services are extensive and professional.

Jewish Family Services are organized on an ad hoc basis, according to the size and needs of the local Jewish community. Services offered vary widely from one Jewish Family Service to the next. One of the few commonalities, fortunately, is marriage counseling. In North America you can easily contact the Jewish Family Service through your local synagogue or you can for online and enter "Jewish Family Services of (your city here)" and chances are excellent that the website for your local Jewish Family Services organization will pop up.

ICNA stands for Islamic Circle of North America. Counseling is delivered to married couples within the context of the expectations of the Faith. Marriage counseling is delivered by the ICNA through Muslim Family Services. MSF is a division of Islamic Circle of North America Relief USA.

Other faiths all have there own marriage counseling services, though most are not as organized as Catholic Family Service, Jewish Family Services or Muslim Family Services.

For couples who were joined in a civil ceremony, it is noted that, like churches, governments have a vested interest in stable families, and an even more pressing interested in assisting unstable marriages. Contact social services in your municipality to find out what service might be available for you and your spouse.




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Chakra Healing


Carol Tuttle is energy healer and shows how to heal yourself by using the medians and, through EFT and chakra energy healing. to learn more about her visit her site

Mind Control Hypnosis That Makes You Strong

By Mark Thomas


Ericksonian Hypnosis is far different than covert hypnosis. Ericksonian Hypnosis focuses upon the use of therapeutic language patterns and not the persuasion process that is required to abide by in order for you to get the things that you want. The Art of Persuasion can only be applied through the application of strategy. What this reveals is that you must be strategic and not linguistic if you want to get the things that you want.

Covert hypnosis programs seldom teach how social strategy can be applied to various social settings to enhance your reputation and power. In recent times the concept of social engineering has been introduced into the persuasion collection, but even social engineering is not fully understood in the persuasion community. In fact, most persuasion seminars do not even mention the topic.

Hypnosis tactics that give emphasis to social engineering rely little upon the use of words. A classic illustration of how social engineering is used by strong people would be to reflect on the way politicians campaign for an election. They use a huge amount of hypnosis secrets and combine them into one fluid force to penetrate the unconscious minds of the people whom they are seeking backing from. Once the politicians have penetrated the publics unconscious mind, then they can begin to alter the publics decision making processes.

Advertising firms are also well known for using social engineering to make millions of dollars for companies and non profit organizations. They use images, billboards, and carefully selected sounds to create an altered state of mind in people in order to have control over their buying decisions. In fact, there is also a tremendous amount of effort that goes into what colors should be used on their marketing pieces, because certain colors have proven to have an effect upon how people act and how people feel.

Obviously, words do have their place in the persuasion process, but words need not in any way replicate the therapeutic language patterns hypnotist use to help people lose weight and quit smoking. Mind control hypnosis and therapeutic hypnosis are two entirely different things. One style of hypnosis mixes everything together to give you the things you want, while therapeutic hypnosis relies only upon the use of language patterns to help out others get what they need.




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Stress Management Tips Will Improve Your Health and Lifestyle

By Jeremy Winters


A new year is upon us, and with it, all the collective optimism and renewed effort to commit to a much healthier way of life. While most individuals get tired of New Year's resolutions inside a few short months, slipping back into old habits, there are a couple of commitments that could be made and kept, due to their simplicity and the truth that they'll advance quality of life. One such commitment would be to lower stress levels. The following article will provide some basic stress management tips that can be applied throughout the year.

Exercise

Maintaining an active way of life is an effective way of utilizing energy efficiently. You really don't have to pay a visit to the health club every day of the week, although if this lifestyle fits you, then by all means, go with it. Work towards raising your physical exercise level slowly; commit to walking to your job once a week, or enjoy a brand new winter sport like snowboarding or ice skating. Lots of people find that moving their bodies helps them to creatively deal with difficult problems, which otherwise might bring about anxiety.

Eat Well

Yes, everything you eat truly does affect your disposition. Consuming a balanced diet that is full of vitamins, fiber, and sufficient protein is a superb way of keeping your brain in tiptop shape, thereby aiding your capacity to cope with stress filled circumstances rationally and efficiently. In the event you enjoy the occasional coffee or alternative caffeine boost, limit the amount you consume every day, and cut out caffeine sources mid-afternoon, to ensure that come nighttime, your sleep is going to be undisturbed. This particular tip leads to one of the most important stress management tips:

Get Adequate Sleep

Sleep deficit has practically become an epidemic in modern day society. Constantly pushed to accomplish and produce, virtually every single individual is responsible for depriving themselves of rest as a way to get more accomplished. In a demanding situation, you could attempt to "pull an all-nighter" so that you can fulfill a deadline or do some last minute studying, however contrary to what your over-stressed brain is telling you, a well rested mind and body will truly be able to achieve a lot more, without the need of over-taxing your body.

Finally, Set Attainable Objectives

One of the simplest ways of letting stress rule your own life is by setting objectives which are impossible to attain. By continually setting the bar above what it is possible to reasonably anticipate from yourself, you place yourself in the situation of constantly struggling to get caught up. Rather than setting yourself up for disappointment, take time to truthfully evaluate your time frame and your energy level, in order to be able to achieve your goals promptly and without stress.

Eliminating stress from your life may feel like a challenging process. By using the simple stress management tips outlined above, however, you'll quickly discover that you have more positive energy and many techniques to deal with stress if it does find its way into your life. So go ahead and dare to be stress-free in 2011!




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How To Use A Pendulum

Having constructed your pendulum, the next step is to learn the vocabulary that will be used by your subconscious mind to communicate with the pendulum. You may want to think of this learning process as a way to program your subconscious mind the same way you would write a software program for a computer. Like the real world, people who share the same language often have slightly different vocabularies, and in a similar way, different people have different pendulum vocabularies. The description that follows is intended to be a suggested guide, so don’t be discouraged if your results are different. Since the most basic application of the pendulum is to answer questions, it’s important to identify four main language components

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Building Strong Relationships Through Personal Development

By Michael Bloxton


The most reliable element in your life is you. You are the only entity that is consistent 100% of the time. Learning, improving, and growing are essential in your life to improve and that's true for your relationships as well.

All of your relationships involve you and factor into your happiness but it is typically the intimate relationships that create the most joy or cause the most pain... so we will discuss these relationships in this article. How does personal development relate to the relationships in your life?

Our intimate relationships offer us constant feedback. In all our lives we get feedback from many sources, but in our intimate relationships, our feedback comes from one person. Interestingly, it isn't the comments they give us that we are considering feedback, it's actually the quality of the relationship that gives us the most feedback. Do you argue a lot? Are the arguments always about the same thing? Where does most of the blame lie when there are problems in the relationship?

The fact is that if there is blame, we usually assign it to the other person. "If they would (fill in the blank), then we'd get along better." Or "Why can't X ever be on time?" When we blame, we shift the responsibility and the power to change the situation. If what you seek is a better relationship, then consider accountability. The truth is, the problem isn't with them, it's always you!

You might think that we couldn't possibly say that with certainty because we don't know you or the other person, but all of that doesn't matter. The power to change your relationship lies within...and we can prove it!

All humans have 6 basic needs and everyone places a different priority on those needs. Your partner has those same needs, and has them listed based on their priorities. Do you know what those needs are and which ones are most valuable to you? If you don't then how would you expect your partner to fulfill them? Do you know which are most important for your partner? If not, you don't stand a chance of fulfilling their needs either, do you?

The 6 human needs are variety, significance, connection (love), certainty, contribution and growth. The first four make our primary needs that anyone can find a way to fill. The last two are up to us.

Let's start with you. Which of these needs is most important to you? Which is the next most important? Don't just gloss over answering these questions. Really put thought into these needs, how you go about fulfilling them in your life, and to which ones you have assigned priority. Your entire life and your future are formed by these needs and how you fulfill them.

If you ask yourself the same question about your partner, what do you know for sure? Do you know which of the needs they would put first? Probably not. If not, can you really say that you've done everything to make your relationship work? Of course you can't. Be honest.

The application of this understanding and knowledge is powerful yet simple to use. For example, if you forget your significant other's birthday, you are clearly not fulfilling their need for significance, connection and love, or even certainty. How do you think they will respond regardless of the excuse you have? If your loved one says you never surprise them or do anything romantic, what are they really telling you? They don't feel significant, connected, and you are not fulfilling their need for variety.

You can tell a lot about someone's needs by observing their actions and what they say. Once you know this, and recognize the priority they place on those needs, then not only can you be more responsive, but you can anticipate those needs before they even become an issue. The great news is that it doesn't just shift bad relationships, they re-energize good relationships. No matter the relationships, good or bad, if you don't initialize this information and look to fulfill the needs of your loved one, you'll soon find yourself alone.

This is a personal development journey, and considering your relationship as part of the journey lessens the pressure. If you get, that disagreements are simply opportunities to gain new insight to your partners' needs and to fulfill them. An added benefit is that it gives you an opportunity to grow, which fulfills one of your basic needs! It's not about who is right, it's simply about learning, growing and your journey.

Your relationship is a way for you to continue your personal development. In your relationship now, consider three ways you could fulfill your partner's needs. There are numerous, seemingly insignificant ways that would have a profound impact on your personal growth and ultimately in relationships.

So here's our challenge: For the next 14 days, put your energy and focus into your partners needs and fulfill them in any way you can. For 14 days don't even bother to think about your own needs, just focus on the ones you love. We promise if you do that, you will see a spectacular improvement in your relationship. Take our challenge and create the relationship you've always desired.




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Different kinds of Stress

By Savannah Andrews


No matter what career you choose in life, you will always experience stress one way or the other. Be it a regular desk job or something that requires you to travel, stress will always be a part of your life. Stress has become a regular part of a working person's life and the only way to get through your life is to know how to manage it.

Professionals sometimes don't notice that they are stresses anymore because they have gotten use to it. Back when they were just starting, they would smoke packs and packs of eluma cigs until they feel much better. But months and years of being exposed to it made them adapt to it. It's something that they have accepted and learned to ignore or adjust to it. But for some who is just starting to experience stress, here are some of the common stresses you can experience in the work place.

Stress seems to be always present for those professionals who work in the hospital. With so many patients and lives to handle, the stress levels are way up high. On a normal situation, medical professionals would visit their patients on a normal pace like walking and they would take their time with each patient or room. But when something comes up like an emergency, everybody would be running. Stress needs to be managed because if they don't, charts will be all over the places, ad medications and patients will be mixed up.

Managerial positions like coordinators are also stressed out when they are at work. Managers hold a higher rank which means they have to 'manage' those who work for them. Managers have to check every now and then to see if their staff are functioning like they are supposed to. They have to make sure that they people who work for them are doing their job and not just lazing around outside and smoking their eluma cigs.

Educators like teachers and professors certainly cannot avoid stress. With all the assignments, students and parents to deal with, how can they? Add to that conferences and meeting with the faculty, they really have their hands full. With things like these to deal with, no doubt teachers and professors would be stressed out by the end of the day.

It is inevitable that you experience stress during your lifetime. Stress may not be something that you want to experience but being stressed also has its own little advantages. It can help you become a better person and gives you ideas on how to manage your work properly and faster.




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Know The Closed Body Language

By Bath Hugenkiss


Have you ever wondered if your spouse, friend, co-worker, or boss was bored with everything that came out of your mouth, but you were not quite able to tell by their body language? Well now, you will be able to tell if what you are saying is falling upon deaf ears. One of the first cues that someone is totally tuning you out is their gaze level. If they are constantly distracted by every little noise or movement you can bet they are not truly paying attention to you, regardless of how many times they tell you they are listening.

Watch for frigidity hands, feet, twitching eyes, all of these are other indicators you do not have not captured your audience attention. A huge clue is when a person begins to yawn or slouch. Granted, yawning is can be an indicator that a person is lacking oxygen, however, when bored, a person will also yawn. If someone straight up falls asleep on you, then you have a real problem with your presentation skills and should consider taking some speech or affective communication classes. Some reasons people may choose to tune out is that the topic you are discussing with them is something they do not want to listen to or they have heard repeatedly from you in the first place.

If a person has no stake in what you are discussing, it is very easy for them to lose interest and become bored quickly. When speaking to a group or on a one on one basis it is important to use body language while you speak. Facial, and hand movements can help to emphasize what you are trying to get across as well as stimulate both the visual and audio senses in your audience. Long drawn out explanations is another quick way to lose your audience attention.

Keep it short and too the point. You do not need to re-explain the same thing 50 different ways to get your point across. Always ask question throughout speaking with anyone. It is a good indicator of the interest level as well.

Often, if a person is bored you may also see closed body language. Closed body language tells you that your audience has totally shut down on you and as far as they are concerned, you are not even in the same room with them any longer even if you are standing directly in front of their face. Teens are excellent example in using closed body language. Closed body language can also present a defensive action for people as well. If you are confronting a person and they exhibit closed body language, it may be because you are scaring them and in order for you to get across what you are trying to say effectively, you should change your approach.

Examples of closed body language are curling up in a ball, rocking, tightly folded arms, almost in a self hug formation, legs tightly crossed or even twisted/intertwined with one another, or with a chair or table leg, and a downward gaze or fixated gaze at an object, wall, or even feet. There may be many reason why you receive closed body language from an individual. Do not automatically assume it is all about you or what you are saying.

The person may have just had an extremely difficult day. When you experience someone who appears to close up during a discussion, note what was being said at the time that the body language changed. It can be a good indicator as to what is possibly going on with them.

When a person feel threatened, even verbally, their body will react. They will get into either a defensive mode or an aggressive mode. In the defensive mode, it is a self-preservation mode. Curling up in a ball protects vulnerable organs and body parts in case of an attack. It can also act as a self-nurturing affect, to sooth a person.

Another reason people may exhibited closed body language is that they are trying to hide something from the other person such as tears or facial expressions. Ways to move a person from a closed body language to a more open and accepting body language is to offer them something to hold such as a drink, or with a child, a toy. Another way is to mimic their body language, however not in a demeaning manner. Move in closer while still respecting personal space and gradually work into copying their closed body language.

This can build a non-verbal bond. As the person begins to relax their closed body position, you also begin to relax at their rate and comfort level.




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